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Dear Friend,

As I sit down to write this letter, I find myself reflecting on the countless times I’ve witnessed individuals, including those who’ve attained remarkable success, continuing to be hard on themselves despite their achievements. It’s a pattern that’s become all too familiar, one that I’ve observed in the pages of books, the frames of documentaries, and even in our own lives. The reason for mentioning that even successful individuals are hard on themselves is to emphasize that it’s not success that will alter your mindset—it’s you who holds the power to change it! In the past, I may have told myself, “Once I’ve achieved my goals, then I’ll adopt a healthier mindset and stop being so hard on myself.” However, I’ve come to realize that this thinking is flawed. I can make that change now, and it will benefit me mentally, emotionally, and physically. And so, I’m compelled to share with you some thoughts on why being hard on oneself is unhealthy, and the transformative power of embracing positivity and self-compassion.

I began this letter with our son in mind, intending to impart valuable insights. However, as I delved deeper into the subject matter, I realized its significance would benefit him even more if shared with you. It’s a message for anyone who is grappling with self-doubt or the burden of self-criticism, in other words being hard on oneself. We’re instilling in our son the importance of sharing information we acquire, and thus, this letter to him has transformed into a letter to you so you can share with your friends, initiating a ripple effect that touches everyone it reaches.

The journey of self-improvement and personal growth is often paved with moments of self-doubt and setbacks. We set high standards for ourselves, striving for perfection in every aspect of our lives. But in doing so, we forget one crucial truth: perfection is an illusion, and our flaws are what make us beautifully human.

When we’re constantly hard on ourselves, it takes a toll on our mental and emotional well-being. We become trapped in a cycle of negativity, constantly berating ourselves for not meeting our own unrealistic expectations. This not only hinders our ability to enjoy life to the fullest but also prevents us from recognizing and celebrating our achievements, no matter how small they may seem.

But here’s the thing: failure is not a sign of weakness; it’s a stepping stone to success. Every setback, every mistake, is an opportunity to learn and grow. Instead of viewing failure as a reflection of our inadequacy, we should see it as a valuable lesson that helps us course-correct and move forward with newfound wisdom and resilience.

It’s essential to acknowledge that we’re not alone in our struggles. So many people wrestle with the same feelings of self-doubt and self-criticism. Yet, there’s strength in vulnerability, in sharing our experiences and supporting one another on this journey toward self-acceptance and self-love.

By shifting our perspective and cultivating a mindset of positivity and self-compassion, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities. We become more resilient in the face of challenges, more empathetic toward ourselves and others, and more appreciative of the beauty that surrounds us.

So, let us start a conversation—one filled with compassion, empathy, and understanding. Let us remind ourselves and those we love that it’s okay to be imperfect, that our worth is not defined by our achievements or our failures, but by the love and kindness we extend to ourselves and others.

As we embrace ourselves wholeheartedly, flaws and all, we create space for joy, fulfillment, and genuine connection. And in doing so, we not only enrich our own lives but also the lives of those around us.

With hope of solidarity,

From one friend to another